A clapback to “Susan-from-Germany,” and to all the “Susans” of the world.
This article on TheRoot.com, caught my attention, as did the video embedded within it and the comments.
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But there was one comment — among many, I must admit — that caught and held my attention. Got me ALL up in my feelings at too-damn-early o’clock, about lane-swerving. About people having too much opinion and mouth, and not nearly enough seats in which to enjoy a tall, ice-cold glass of shut-the-fuck-up-and-just-listen.
Susan-from-Germany is a special sort of ig’nant. And by “special,” I mean “dismayingly common, but apparently all right because it’s all white.” I don’t appreciate bullshit talkin’-out-the-neck about being reasonable and compassionate from anyone. But it’s far worse when one’s own commentary obviously displays a gross dearth of the same.
Anyway, enough preamble. Here’s what Susan-from-Germany had to say, on a subject about which she knows nothing, and in the company of a majority that knows all-too-well:
My on-site reply to this is as follows:
“Ohhhhh, for real, though, Susan? That’s what’s good? A’ight, then. Okay.
“But respectfully, the conclusion you’ve drawn in your response to this incident and video — then chose to bruit about on THIS SITE, of all forums — is under-informed and callously, dangerously naive. You’re making value judgments about two societies in which you haven’t lived as one of its people. Three, technically, since the United States as a whole is also a society, filled with smaller, diverse, and localized ethnic societies.
“Next time, rather than stud your comment with muddled, passive-aggressive logical fallacies, remember the insight [previous commentor]was kind enough to offer clearly and politely. And please don’t opine so boldly on things about which you know next to nothing. I, for instance, wouldn’t dream of explaining ethnic and racial breakdowns, and socioeconomic trends or aberrations in Germany. Or why people there maybe SHOULDN’T pay for terrible services without complaint or negotiation. Nor will I blithely, insensitively judge Germany for NOT — one would deduce from your mystification and seeming disdain over peaceful protests and boycotting — having familiarity with a community taking responsibility for its future treatment from a business that depends on THEIR PATRONAGE for a least ninety-five percent of its survival and profit.
“I, personally, bear you no animus for your questions, Susan. But your tone, and its whiffs of lofty, evolved superiority and unhelpful, unasked for, unwanted solution-slinging, regarding people who’ve had to endure slights and stresses you may never understand even a little — and I mean the protestors AND the salon employees, mind you — THAT apparent tone I find offensive and disgusting and, sadly, entirely typical. But audacious enough in its willful, braggadocio and ignorance that I couldn’t NOT respond to your steaming pile of . . . comment. Despite my long-standing refusal to feed trolls of any stripe or intent or intensity.
“YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCE and opinions and mores, your VALUE JUDGMENTS and REACTIONS to anything are NOT A DEFAULT or even a DESIRED TAKE. No one here, or anywhere but your mom’s house cares about YOUR take on things you know nothing about. Maybe take that as an opportunity to learn. To have several thousand seats, stay in your lane, and LISTEN to people who know more about a topic than you ever will. Because this isn’t computer programming or HVAC, sis. You can’t learn this in a classroom or from a video. The history, perhaps, though that’s always written by the conquerers and their dominant culture. But you can’t learn the firsthand, nitty-gritty in a classroom or from a book. You can’t learn the REAL from a book. So, maybe you might listen when people are generous enough to tell you what their experiences are and have been, and try to empathize, rather than condescend and look down your nose at the barbarians.
“Because that’s what you sound like you’re doing in that comment. (Maybe it’s a language barrier-thing — I don’t know.)
“If you walked in the shoes of someone from that video, anyone from that video, for a whole year, you still wouldn’t have the perspective required or recommended to ask THESE questions in THAT tone. You are out of your lane a LOT — you’re possibly even in the way of traffic going down the other side of the highway. PLEASE check yourself and your unappreciated tone of enlightened, but weary exasperation/frustration with the travails of us lesser folks. And maybe listen to the truths of others — closely and really and with the humility of knowing that YOU ARE NOT THE RHODES SCHOLAR ON THIS SUBJECT AND NEVER WILL BE, then THINK AND FEEL on those truths, if you can — before you cast your pearls among us swine. Ain’t nobody got time to explain to you how basic empathy and consideration for others human beings actually works. Except me, apparently, because I’m too damn sick to be doing things I actually want to do and which I find worthwhile, as opposed to utterly pointless at present and in hindsight. Peace-out, Susan.”
Quite. Peace-the-fuck-out, Susans of the world. If you can’t ask without disdain and condescension, and because you care and genuinely want to know and understand and help . . . then keep having ALL THE SEATS, ever. Never stop never stoppin’ that shit. Don’t ask a goddamn thing at all, because you’ll always intentionally and obnoxiously lane-swerve. Then cry white or white-adjacent tears when you get smacked in your arrogant, trash mouth.
Fuck you. Ain’t NOBODY, even sick-ass, bored-ass ME, got time to play respectability politics or tone-police our lives or ourselves for YOU.