No, Chad and Becky: YOU DON’T GET TO SAY THE N-WORD, and here’s why.
What to Say When Your White Friend Wants to Use the N-Word
On Thursday, the British blowhard with a face that looks like a half-filled Hefty bag, Piers Morgan, wrote a piece…
GREAT article and the comments on it were awesome, reasoned, and easy to get, if you’re not trying to waste your day being contrary and super-fucking-bigoted. If anyone reading this (public post) is white and wonders why black people who want to say the N-word GET to say the N-word, and YOU DON’T. . . .
Okay, first, WHY do you WANT TO? Like, seriously? Please ask yourselves, ’cause I’d genuinely like to know why. I’ve never had an urge to use a racial slur for some ethnic group to which I don’t belong — or even the ones to which I do — so . . . really. Out of all the words in English . . . why do you want to say one of a relative and ridiculously FEW you shouldn’t? Not “aren’t allowed” — this is ‘Murrica, and provided it’s not “Fire!” in a crowded theater, we can say whatever we want or think we can get away with . . . though if you can’t get away with saying the slur among the people it has oppressed, then you shouldn’t be saying it around ANYONE — but “shouldn’t say.” It’s belittling or benefiting from oppression you have no share in. At least not on the “suffering” end of the equation.
But if you wanna know why YOU DON’T get to say the N-word AND still wear your shiny not-a-racist-fuckwad-asshole badge anymore, it’s because —
YOU. DON’T. GET TO.
You do you, and say whatever you want . . . show your ass to whomever (and good luck pissing into a bag for the rest of ever). This is ‘Murrica and supposedly we can still DO THAT, even in Trump’s version of it. But don’t expect to been seen as anything other than the MILLIONS of wypipo/white supremacist-adjcaent and actual white supremacists who say it, and then get the side-eye AT BEST from black people or any people who aren’t douchebags. Or slabbed at worst (perhaps?) Though what people get and what they deserve rarely coincide, if you’re stupid enough to say the N-word around angry black people who outnumber you and aren’t here for your shit anymore, my sympathy for you is even more fallow than my field of giveable fucks.
Just as people who use large or complex words get seen as intelligent, whether they are or not — and they aren’t always . . . well-spoken and incisive/intelligent/learned are two things that don’t always occur together — why would anyone who isn’t black using the N-word be seen as ANYTHING other than the shitty, racist, bigoted, greedy, lane-swerving, oppression and appropriation that it is?
You don’t wanna be conflated with people who invented the N-word to break down an entire section of humanity, and oh, by the way, looked like you?
Then don’t use the fucking word. It’s that simple. Seriously.
Why shouldn’t you?
Because you. Don’t. GET TO.
And you FOR GODDAMN MOTHERFUCKING SURE DON’T GET TO POLICE BLACK PEOPLE’S USE OF IT AND APPROPRIATION OF IT, EITHER.
You don’t get to.
You just don’t. One of three thing — maybe three, probably fewer — that your skin color prevents you from taking/stealing, (mis)using, and fucking owning, just as people who look like you have owned EVERYTHING/EVERYONE since all of always. You don’t get to have Stepping, you don’t get to have Wakanda, and you fucking-don’t-get to have the motherfucking N-word.
Not because I, a black person, want it and use it and treasure it. I don’t. I really don’t . You don’t get to because YOU DON’T GET TO. You don’t get to have it and you just don’t get it. And you never will. So, the answer will always be no, Chad, and it’s not for you, Becky . . . sorry/not sorry.
Because it’s not.
I hope that clears it up, if there were still any questions after reading the linked article and comments section. I know, in these confusing, troubled times, many of the unmelanated are asking: “Why should I, specifically, stay in my (specific) lane? Why should I, A Wypipo who wants to be ‘culturally relevant,’ not racist, sit down and shut up 5EVAH about the N-word?”
Because you should. Because you fucking should. And because — wait for it — YOU DON’T GET TO.