No, Dylynn and MacKayla. YOU DON’T get to say “nigga,” even without the hard R. Sorry/Not sorry.

I miss Boondocks.

Riley. . . . ❤

And could the teacher in the live-action bits be enjoying saying “nigga(er)” — on tv, to a Black reporter, ad nauseam, without catching her hands, the camera crew’s hands, and the hands of any Black person in hearing-distance, any more than he is? Possibly, but he’d have a coronary.

“I don’t understand! I’m trying to understand!”

That. That, right there, is some PEAK caucasity . . . in all its unseasoned, unnecessarily raisin-flecked, ecru glory.

What is so difficult to get about how this all works? YOU DON’T GET TO SAY IT. Full-stop. It’s not your word to say, no matter how you mean it. The word is reclaimed. YOU can’t use it and you have no say in how the people whom the word affects say it. YOU don’t get to differentiate between hard R and AH, and your offense and moral uprightness don’t mean a damn thing to anyone who doesn’t look like you, complexionally. You don’t get to have skin in this game because YOU don’t have skin in this game. Or, think of it like this: when it comes to ANY variation, you’re Voldemort and it’s fucking “CRUCIO!” Even if he thinks he means well saying it, he’s causing hurt and rage and horror when he does. So, maybe just don’t fucking say that word if your intentions are good. If your intentions are good nd to get along with Black people, if you’re not Black — and sometimes even if you are, depending on the disposition of the group, and the age — DON’T USE IT. If you insist and persist, I won’t even bother to hope you catch hands eventually, because I won’t have to. It’ll be a foregone conclusion, and only other wielders of complexionally and culturally inappropriate terms — racists . . . I mean racists — will feel an ounce of sympathy for you. And everyone with an ounce of COMMON-GODDAMN-SENSE will remember that YOU got your ass beat for dropping N-bombs around Black people as if they might not notice your lack of insta-pass (melanin . . . I mean melanin) and be cool with YOUR over-privileged ass stealing one of the ONE privileges you don’t already enjoy and one of the relative few Black folks do get.

And it IS our right to use it or not use it how we will. You will not and CANNOT police us in this. You can’t get away with shooting us in the back thirty-eight times as we flee in terror, because we use the N-word at will. Or, probably you CAN — of COURSE, YOU can! This is ‘Murrica and the planet, Earth! — but you’ll have to come up with a better excuse than fearing for your life in that moment.

Enjoy all your other privileges and be content with that, rather than trying to control the ONE word that you can’t use with impunity and without looking like a shitheels. And you DO look like a shitheels using any variation, no matter who you use it with, for, or on.

I know, I know . . . not being able to use that word freely is harsh, in a world in which you have all the other opportunities. Not being able to say nigga(er) without looking like every other racist, entitled douche who likes to punch-down must be harrowing and depressing. Like a pumpkin-spice latte without the pumpkin and spice. But I’d be more than willing to convene a meeting of All The Black People, and help broker a deal in which YOU get to say nigga(er) ALL YOU WANT, but you have to take redlining; racism; bigotry; being told how “articulate” you are for the high bar of not sounding like . . . whatever is expected; more than double the murder-by-cop rate; systemic cultural warfare GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT; “HE LOOKED LIKE A DEMON”; being hyper-sexualized at EARLY ages; being aged up by another racial group’s “gaze,” and all the other shit that comes with being able to say nigga freely. You wanna use the hard R version, though . . . gonna cost a LOT more than that. I guarantee you WON’T want to pay it — honestly, no one has EVER wanted to pay that price, but . . . we did. We did.

So, for “nigga”? We can deal. Though, the aforementioned stuff, i.e., redlining, murder-by-cop . . . that’s just the make-or-break. The foundation. There’s gonna be a lot of other haggling before YOU can have “nigga” in your mouth without getting shown why it shouldn’t be.

But make me a serious offer and I’ll see what I can do.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store